What does adventurous in the bedroom mean

Before getting into your tried and true—but not overly complicated—Kama Sutra position, ask her to gently tie a silk scarf around your eyes as a blindfold. Restricting one sense will heighten all your others in an intense way, Britton assures.

When your pheromones go wild, so will you. Go fragrance free for seven days, says forensic sexologist Eric Garrison , and see the crazy effect that your natural scent will have on your sex life. Wash all your clothes with the new, unscented stuff and start using the odorless grooming products, then sit back and watch how your woman goes wild for you during kissing, cuddling, and of course, sex.

Agree that neither you nor she will make a peep during the act from start to finish. Either way, it will definitely change up your tired old routine. Drape it over the bar, so that the U portion is in front and the ends hang over the back. Reach through the U with each hand and grab an end in each hand. Your partner can sit in it like a swing or open it up some, and lean into it for doggy style. Just make sure your bar is very secure for safety.

Read article. I want him to grab my head, moan or do something…but he just lays there! I feel like less of a woman. It is very exasperating.

He says that all his nerve endings are in the tip, and I know that already. It can happen! The one thing that will make it more difficult for your man to come and orgasm when giving him head is to put him under pressure. There are a ton of factors that could be affecting him. He could naturally be less sensitive than most. His age and general health could also be factors. He gets used to this and then after a while, he needs more and more pressure to orgasm. Much more pressure than is possible during sex.

If this is the case, he should lay off masturbating for a few months. This will make him more sensitive and make it easier for him to cum during oral sex. What should I do. Thanks Sean! This just makes me smile, I am Scandinavian and we have no such problems in general in the bedroom! We love our bodies and know that any man is grateful to see your body regardless of shape or size. If more women realized this, I guarantee their sex life would improve.

Good article! My man never makes a sound when we have sex and I find it a bit disconcerting. Hi Kitty, If you like your man being vocal, then let him know it.

You might feel like just asking him to be more vocal, but a much more effective way to get him to talk dirty is to let him know how hot and sexy it is. You might even want to try telling him that you cum a lot harder when he is talking dirty to you. Let me know how things go! I love getting this newsletter.

It has helped me come out of my shell so much! I really enjoy sex a whole lot more! Thank you! He loves when i go down on him but when i do he never tries to Finnish me.

Actually he never tries to period. If this is something important to you, then you really need to sit him down and talk to him about it. In my experience, men who are sexually selfish are sexually immature. Real men take pride in knowing how to please a woman. Men who cum, rollover and go to sleep are a waste of time and effort. You can find someone better!

Waste of your time!! You are just as important as he is … And in your case , you are more important!! Move on sweetheart you deserve better!!

I love getting your emails, and your articles are brilliant! I have been following your post for the last three months and have loved everything you post! I just turned 40 and my husband thinks I am crazy bc he keeps hearing all these stories about wives losing their sex drive at this age! I have been trying some new techniques from your post and now my husband is wondering where he can learn some new techniques too or a version like this but badboybible!!!!

I give my husband, so he says, the best blow job he has ever had. So i thought i had a good handle on things. He loves me to satisfy him orally and on several occasions I have caught him bragging to perfect strangers. All his friends want me to talk to their wives, like give instructions on it. I just want to thank you for teaching this old dog some new tricks. I have been secretly reading your newsletters and trying 1 or 2 different things you have said and they have worked wonders.

My wife and I have an active sex life and it is very enjoyable. And on a regular basis, and I say this fully bragging lol, I can give her multiple orgasms into the double digits.

Now before you tell me to talk to her about it, I have. Many times. She is the envy of her friends for how great we communicate. She was brought up in a religious home and has self confidence issues. I am constantly reaffirming to her how beautiful she is and how much her body turns me on. Any help? And it has! So thanks for that : But I have to say I often find your language and attitude pretty troubling.

Yes, I agree satisfying our partners is very important. And I always put the effort in to achieve this and enjoy it! But it is extremely important that we women are also satisfied. But some people are commitment-phones and stray for reasons that are deeply and personally ingrained and have nothing to do with love or sex.

Or love just sometimes naturally dies and that too can lead people to stray, even if sex is still good. Besides, sex should never be all about the other person.

To have a really healthy sex life you gotta get your kicks off too! And to get your kicks off, I believe you need to make sure you are doing things that turn YOU on, not just him and your man has to put in just as much effort into pleasing you as you do him. And I get that your newsletters are intended to empower women, and in many ways they do including me when I pick up some new moves that make me feel like a magician etc like rubbing the head of his cock on the hard palate of my mouth while stoking my tongue along his shaft.

That one is a winner and makes me feel like a boss so thank you. But I think all that great work is counter productive when you perhaps unconsciously, put the sole onus on us women to make sure our sex lives with our partners are dynamite, and transfer all the responsibility away from men. Men get bored and take things r. And because I believe that and let them know that, they believe it too. No amount of deep throating and smut talk can change a player by nature.

Sure, it might make him want to keep booty calling you, but who wants to keep a dog hanging around who is just going to keep playing with your heart? And 2. My sexual confidence has come from a belief that I deserve to be sexually satisfied just as much as my lovers do. Every woman does! Including YOU! And Sean, I owe you kudos, so many thanks, but I really do implore you to consider my constructive criticism and just tweak the angle of your attitude and language so it is more empowering for us women.

As I believe empowering us is what you are intending to do. So I hope you will accept my thanks, as well as my thoughts on this matter and take them on board. Cheers Sean! Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. Oh my.. And I hope women read this. I mean Sean your tips and insights are good. And it help us women to atleast know what men wants and thinks.

But Emma is so spot on. Hi Sean, after being away from my husband forna while I had a chance to think about what I wanted in the bedroom. I wrote everything down and gave it to my husband and asked him to do the same, he said he wanted the same things. Unfortunately he has not tried to do any of them. What do should I do? Also thank you sooo much for the blow job advice, he loves it and I have started to enjoy giving them. I have being reading informed information and it as being working really great for my sex life.

I am now more opened and less shy in the bed room and my man loves it beyond words. However, my question is you only write about how the man should be pleased sexually, but nothing on how he should please the me the woman. How do you get your man to perform oral sex on you and go out and beyond for me in bed the way I am doing it for him.

I am filling all his sexual fantastices with your tips I do them like a pro. So I think I deserve the same back. So how do I go about getting him to start going down on me? What do you do when you give blow job or even a hand job to your spouse and you feel bored or stop bring I the mood? That is what I deal with it just I feel so gross giving bjs and handjobs. But it makes me upset each time he ask for it because I lose interest in sex all together.

This sounds like a really tricky situation. You may find talking to him to be the best thing so that you are both on the same page. I was seeing someon 16 years younger. We were not completely okay with the age difference but enjoyed each other for about a year. So I finalized the blow job with your article. He only did that to me once. Anyway we separated the next week. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time.

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